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  • How are you adapting to the new normal in your place of work or your business?
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The global crisis has changed a lot of things in our lives. Our daily life looks a lot different from what it used to be, including how and where we work. 
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As we settle back to work, these are trying times for all of us, and while this pandemic is undeniably severe, its impact on humans is undoubtedly generating conflict within teams in the workplace.

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Join us for this learning session to gain insight from experts on how to navigate the trying time using #SoftSkills #EmotionalIntelligence #ConflictResolution & #Negotiation

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For registration, visit @lagosconflictcoach bio or use the link below 

https://t.co/nbgQ9Wka1X
  • How are you adapting to the new normal in your place of work or your business?
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    The global crisis has changed a lot of things in our lives. Our daily life looks a lot different from what it used to be, including how and where we work.
    _
    As we settle back to work, these are trying times for all of us, and while this pandemic is undeniably severe, its impact on humans is undoubtedly generating conflict within teams in the workplace.

    _
    Join us for this learning session to gain insight from experts on how to navigate the trying time using #SoftSkills #EmotionalIntelligence #ConflictResolution & #Negotiation

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    For registration, visit @lagosconflictcoach bio or use the link below

    https://t.co/nbgQ9Wka1X

  •  9  1  1 hour ago
  • 🌟Designed by🌟 @crazyjayjayjay 
“누가있어?”
The name is the same as my song 👀
To purchase “in bio” 

👇🏻Get 30%discount👇🏻
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Size: All size available XS - 3XL 

I’ve gotten sample of T-shirt I designed today🧐
The color turned out very cool like before the socks and it looks real paint & spraypaint  on the T-shirt 👏 Also I can see the drawing line with 🖍crayons 
In this summer Upgrade your look with it 😌
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“The color might be slightly different due to lighting “
  • 🌟Designed by🌟 @crazyjayjayjay
    “누가있어?”
    The name is the same as my song 👀
    To purchase “in bio”

    👇🏻Get 30%discount👇🏻
    ↘️Code: DGJ36LQFYS↙️
    Size: All size available XS - 3XL

    I’ve gotten sample of T-shirt I designed today🧐
    The color turned out very cool like before the socks and it looks real paint & spraypaint on the T-shirt 👏 Also I can see the drawing line with 🖍crayons
    In this summer Upgrade your look with it 😌
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    “The color might be slightly different due to lighting “

  •  17  1  1 hour ago
  • It's time to learn the art of resolving conflict in a healthier way.

Book your session today to learn more about how we can work through difficult stuff instead of allowing it to build up to a place where we want to throw in the towel.

www.startright.co.za

#Imago #relationships #couplestherapy #conflictresolution
  • It's time to learn the art of resolving conflict in a healthier way.

    Book your session today to learn more about how we can work through difficult stuff instead of allowing it to build up to a place where we want to throw in the towel.

    www.startright.co.za

    #Imago #relationships #couplestherapy #conflictresolution

  •  1  0  1 hour ago
  • 🌸Who said dealing with conflict was difficult?

🌸Don’t let conflict at work fester – resolve it today by using my Six Top Tips. 

• Don’t ignore it
• Put your emotions to one side
• Try not to think of the conflict as a battle to be won
• Listen close
• Find your common ground
• Concentrate on the facts not the person.

🌸It really is as simple at that! 

#HR #humanresourcesmanagement #hruk #Leadership #manager #retention #conflictresolution #hrconsulting #hrconsultant #hrtipsandtools #hrsolutions #hradvice #humanresourcesconsulting #heartbeathrlimited #humanrsourcesonline #workplace
  • 🌸Who said dealing with conflict was difficult?

    🌸Don’t let conflict at work fester – resolve it today by using my Six Top Tips.

    • Don’t ignore it
    • Put your emotions to one side
    • Try not to think of the conflict as a battle to be won
    • Listen close
    • Find your common ground
    • Concentrate on the facts not the person.

    🌸It really is as simple at that!

    #HR #humanresourcesmanagement #hruk #Leadership #manager #retention #conflictresolution #hrconsulting #hrconsultant #hrtipsandtools #hrsolutions #hradvice #humanresourcesconsulting #heartbeathrlimited #humanrsourcesonline #workplace

  •  5  0  2 hours ago
  • Here’s what you do when your child talks back at you.

1. Be self aware of your emotions. Mentally say to yourself, “I’m angry right now”, and just let that sit there for a couple of seconds.
2. Listen attentively. Let them talk their mouths off as you listen actively to their interests and feelings.
3. Summarize. In a following summary, touch on everything they’ve said.
4. Problem-solve. With all of that information, find a solution that will fix their issues (and yours, too.)

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  • Here’s what you do when your child talks back at you.

    1. Be self aware of your emotions. Mentally say to yourself, “I’m angry right now”, and just let that sit there for a couple of seconds.
    2. Listen attentively. Let them talk their mouths off as you listen actively to their interests and feelings.
    3. Summarize. In a following summary, touch on everything they’ve said.
    4. Problem-solve. With all of that information, find a solution that will fix their issues (and yours, too.)

    #negotiation
    #emotionalintelligence
    #conflictresolution
    #parenting
    #life
    #motherhood
    #fatherhood
    #life
    #work
    #peace
    #stressrelief
    #stress
    #confidence
    #conflict
    #problem
    #problemsolving
    #college
    #anxiety
    #anxietyrelief
    #depressionhelp
    #love
    #beautiful
    #happy
    #teenage
    #children

  •  3  0  3 hours ago
  • The purpose of Conflict Resolution Corner is not to coerce you into changing your opinions, beliefs, or feelings. The purpose is to help you develop skills that will allow you to understand where others are coming from. Hand in hand with that you’ll learn how to better communicate where you’re coming from. 

Whether it’s with strangers in person or online, close family and friends, co-workers, or, spouses I want you to know how to cultivate, sustain and empower conversations where differing views and opinions can flourish. We’re rarely taught these skills and the norms around this subject that society has adapted are not effective OR healthy. As a disclaimer this is a PROCESS. To be truly committed to improving your communication skills with individuals who you disagree with will take PRACTICE. 

Don’t expect yourself to be better overnight or after one conversation. Forgive yourself and more importantly others through this process. 💙

Be a #peacemaker. #conflictresolutioncorner #mediation #conflictresolution
  • The purpose of Conflict Resolution Corner is not to coerce you into changing your opinions, beliefs, or feelings. The purpose is to help you develop skills that will allow you to understand where others are coming from. Hand in hand with that you’ll learn how to better communicate where you’re coming from.

    Whether it’s with strangers in person or online, close family and friends, co-workers, or, spouses I want you to know how to cultivate, sustain and empower conversations where differing views and opinions can flourish. We’re rarely taught these skills and the norms around this subject that society has adapted are not effective OR healthy. As a disclaimer this is a PROCESS. To be truly committed to improving your communication skills with individuals who you disagree with will take PRACTICE.

    Don’t expect yourself to be better overnight or after one conversation. Forgive yourself and more importantly others through this process. 💙

    Be a #peacemaker. #conflictresolutioncorner #mediation #conflictresolution

  •  6  0  4 hours ago
  • #rip John Hume 1937-2020 #freeulster #freescotland #freeireland #labor Reposted from @rudedrink “All conflict is about the same thing, no matter where it is. It’s about difference...” Please take a moment to watch this clip of John Hume, explaining in very simple terms, how we are al different, and how we should celebrate that! 
Clip taken from Ford/MIT Nobel Laureate Lecture - John Hume - The Philosophy of Conflict Resolution 15/10/2001. If you do not know who John Hume is, please take time to research his great work - https://bit.ly/2z7FNnG #blacklivesmatter #humanrace #johnhume #conflictresolution #northernireland #trumpsamerica #dontbeadick #wearealldifferentandthatsbeautiful #equalrights #civilrights #wearealldifferent #weareallinthistogether - #regrann
  • #rip John Hume 1937-2020 #freeulster #freescotland #freeireland #labor Reposted from @rudedrink “All conflict is about the same thing, no matter where it is. It’s about difference...” Please take a moment to watch this clip of John Hume, explaining in very simple terms, how we are al different, and how we should celebrate that!
    Clip taken from Ford/MIT Nobel Laureate Lecture - John Hume - The Philosophy of Conflict Resolution 15/10/2001. If you do not know who John Hume is, please take time to research his great work - https://bit.ly/2z7FNnG #blacklivesmatter #humanrace #johnhume #conflictresolution #northernireland #trumpsamerica #dontbeadick #wearealldifferentandthatsbeautiful #equalrights #civilrights #wearealldifferent #weareallinthistogether - #regrann

  •  3  0  6 hours ago
  • Do your kids play video games? Give them the experience of being in a video game, keep them busy, and get some physical activity that can be done safely from home! Our kid's classes are also available online as well as in the dojo with social distancing and masks. To learn more call us at 775-337-8030.
  • Do your kids play video games? Give them the experience of being in a video game, keep them busy, and get some physical activity that can be done safely from home! Our kid's classes are also available online as well as in the dojo with social distancing and masks. To learn more call us at 775-337-8030.

  •  7  1  6 hours ago
  • When using silence/giving cold treatment as a weapon then it becomes "the silent treatment," which is toxic, unhealthy, and dangerous.

Silent treatment is a common pattern in marriage, It's so easy to engage in silent treatment and It’s an incredibly hard pattern to break which makes it dangerous and an habit we MUST SNAP OUT OF if we want to build a healthy marriage.

Silent treatment is a silent marriage killer - it inflicts an indirect pain and damage by sending signal of hurt, confusion , frustration and anger.

When couples become locked in this ‘demand-withdraw’ pattern, the damage can be both emotional and physiological.

Perhaps you can relate, We are all guilty but I just want us to be conscious of the damage so we can avoid starting a fire we cannot quench. Find other ways to express how you feel by;
1. Find a good time to talk when you have cooled down
2. Express how you feel without playing the blame game.
3. Always be open to correction if it turns out you're wrong.

To be fair, there are times when we must cool off, and this should only be the time when silence is used. Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” (James 1:19).

I pray for a resolution for that marriage going through hard time due to pain inflicted on each other with silence. Amen.
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#conflictmanagement
#conflictresolution #couplefight #couplestherapy #couplesadvice #couplessupport #marriageadvice101 #silenttreatment #silentkiller #silentkiller👉 #loveandmarriage #marriageproblems #marriagecrisis #marriagefirst #marriageworks #ministryofmarriage #ministryofwives
  • When using silence/giving cold treatment as a weapon then it becomes "the silent treatment," which is toxic, unhealthy, and dangerous.

    Silent treatment is a common pattern in marriage, It's so easy to engage in silent treatment and It’s an incredibly hard pattern to break which makes it dangerous and an habit we MUST SNAP OUT OF if we want to build a healthy marriage.

    Silent treatment is a silent marriage killer - it inflicts an indirect pain and damage by sending signal of hurt, confusion , frustration and anger.

    When couples become locked in this ‘demand-withdraw’ pattern, the damage can be both emotional and physiological.

    Perhaps you can relate, We are all guilty but I just want us to be conscious of the damage so we can avoid starting a fire we cannot quench. Find other ways to express how you feel by;
    1. Find a good time to talk when you have cooled down
    2. Express how you feel without playing the blame game.
    3. Always be open to correction if it turns out you're wrong.

    To be fair, there are times when we must cool off, and this should only be the time when silence is used. Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” (James 1:19).

    I pray for a resolution for that marriage going through hard time due to pain inflicted on each other with silence. Amen.
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    #conflictmanagement
    #conflictresolution #couplefight #couplestherapy #couplesadvice #couplessupport #marriageadvice101 #silenttreatment #silentkiller #silentkiller👉 #loveandmarriage #marriageproblems #marriagecrisis #marriagefirst #marriageworks #ministryofmarriage #ministryofwives

  •  10  1  7 hours ago
  • A few days ago I shared some information on what the 5 love languages are.  If your partner has said that one of their languages is WORDS OF AFFIRMATION, you may be stuck on what that actually looks like.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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#couples #relationship #communication #conflict #gottmanmethod #eft #couragecompassionconnection #listen #talk #fight #argue #resolveconflict #conflictresolution #marriage #partnership #lovelanguages #garychapman
  • A few days ago I shared some information on what the 5 love languages are. If your partner has said that one of their languages is WORDS OF AFFIRMATION, you may be stuck on what that actually looks like.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    Here are just a few examples of how to use your words to affirm your partner.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    #couples #relationship #communication #conflict #gottmanmethod #eft #couragecompassionconnection #listen #talk #fight #argue #resolveconflict #conflictresolution #marriage #partnership #lovelanguages #garychapman

  •  16  0  7 hours ago
  • Do You Open Up Too Much Space For Others + Just Get Drained? 👇Top 2 Ways To Overcome A Draining Environment 👇⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Do you feel like - ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
☄People’s negativity really draws energy out of you.. even if it’s just 'girl talk'⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
☄Entertaining negative conversations drains so much energy from you - leaving you feeling worse than when you started the conversation⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
☄Anytime you leave a hangout with 'a certain person' you feel mentally drained, even if you didn’t do much⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
☄You might even compare yourself too much to another person + you find yourself judging everything they do... worst part is, you don’t even know why⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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First of all: I TOTALLY GET IT + YOU ARE NOT ALONE.⁣⁠ ⁣⁠[SAVE THIS POST!]⁣⁠⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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BUT your energy is the No.1 thing that keeps you thriving in all aspects of your life - mentally, emotionally, physically + spiritually... so if you're not able to conserve your energy, you're not going to be able to grow as a conscious, stable + healthy being.⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I mean... LIKE HELL NO⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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NO WAY THAT I AM LETTING THAT HAPPEN TO ANYONE ON MY WATCH! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Here are 2 proven ways to relight that flame you have inside for your energy to keep thriving:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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1️⃣NAME YOUR LIMITATIONS: if something makes you uncomfortable... stop allowing it to take time away from you⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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2️⃣INTROSPECTION: ask yourself, "what will the result be if i say yes... will i be resentful after?" ask yourself questions that get to the core of you as a being to understand yourself in a NONJUDGEMENTAL way⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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👇which tip will you try today 1️⃣or 2️⃣⁣⁠? share below👇⁠
  • Do You Open Up Too Much Space For Others + Just Get Drained? 👇Top 2 Ways To Overcome A Draining Environment 👇⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    Do you feel like - ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    ☄People’s negativity really draws energy out of you.. even if it’s just 'girl talk'⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    ☄Entertaining negative conversations drains so much energy from you - leaving you feeling worse than when you started the conversation⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    ☄Anytime you leave a hangout with 'a certain person' you feel mentally drained, even if you didn’t do much⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    ☄You might even compare yourself too much to another person + you find yourself judging everything they do... worst part is, you don’t even know why⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    First of all: I TOTALLY GET IT + YOU ARE NOT ALONE.⁣⁠ ⁣⁠[SAVE THIS POST!]⁣⁠⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    BUT your energy is the No.1 thing that keeps you thriving in all aspects of your life - mentally, emotionally, physically + spiritually... so if you're not able to conserve your energy, you're not going to be able to grow as a conscious, stable + healthy being.⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    I mean... LIKE HELL NO⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    NO WAY THAT I AM LETTING THAT HAPPEN TO ANYONE ON MY WATCH! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    Here are 2 proven ways to relight that flame you have inside for your energy to keep thriving:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    1️⃣NAME YOUR LIMITATIONS: if something makes you uncomfortable... stop allowing it to take time away from you⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    2️⃣INTROSPECTION: ask yourself, "what will the result be if i say yes... will i be resentful after?" ask yourself questions that get to the core of you as a being to understand yourself in a NONJUDGEMENTAL way⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    👇which tip will you try today 1️⃣or 2️⃣⁣⁠? share below👇⁠

  •  16  1  7 hours ago
  • Before a child is even a year old...⁠
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they know what your triggers are and will act in the best way to get their needs for love and approval met (even at the sacrifice of their own deeper desire).⁠
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For example, if you are nervous and get anxious when your child ventures away to explore, they will hold back and stick close by to ensure YOU feel safe. ⁠
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If you are "touched out" and have resistance to all the cuddles and closeness your little want needs, they will miscue and try to get that need met in a less intimate way- in order to make sure YOU are ok.⁠
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See, because your safety IS their safety. Your okayness dictates their okayness...⁠
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This is why I am such an advocate for personal development, reflection, and attachment coaching.⁠
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We all have needs ⁠
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and a history of having those needs met (or not) ⁠
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and patterns of behavior that cue (or miscue) what those needs are in relationship to our primary people.⁠
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Primary people (or attachment relationships) are typically parent-child dyads or adults in intimate partnerships. ⁠
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▶️Check out my Circle of Security Parenting program for more info and support. ⁠
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#relationshipcoach⁠
#innerwork⁠
#workonyourself⁠
#traumainformed⁠
#integrativehealth⁠
#emotionalwellbeing⁠
#focusonyou⁠
#healthyrelationships⁠
#conflictresolution⁠
#emotionalawareness⁠
#mentalhealthhelp⁠
#connectedparenting⁠
#sleepcoach⁠
#babytalk⁠
#healthyfamilies⁠
#gentleparenting⁠
#happybabies⁠
#peacefulparenting⁠
#fourthtrimester⁠
#attachmnetparenting⁠
#birthstories⁠
#breastfeedingjourney⁠
#realmoms⁠
#postpartumsupport⁠
#babysleep⁠
#infantmassage⁠
#positivebirth⁠
#healthysleep⁠
#dadstuff⁠
#happycouples⁠
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  • Before a child is even a year old...⁠

    they know what your triggers are and will act in the best way to get their needs for love and approval met (even at the sacrifice of their own deeper desire).⁠

    For example, if you are nervous and get anxious when your child ventures away to explore, they will hold back and stick close by to ensure YOU feel safe. ⁠

    If you are "touched out" and have resistance to all the cuddles and closeness your little want needs, they will miscue and try to get that need met in a less intimate way- in order to make sure YOU are ok.⁠

    See, because your safety IS their safety. Your okayness dictates their okayness...⁠

    This is why I am such an advocate for personal development, reflection, and attachment coaching.⁠

    We all have needs ⁠

    and a history of having those needs met (or not) ⁠

    and patterns of behavior that cue (or miscue) what those needs are in relationship to our primary people.⁠

    Primary people (or attachment relationships) are typically parent-child dyads or adults in intimate partnerships. ⁠

    ▶️Check out my Circle of Security Parenting program for more info and support. ⁠

    #relationshipcoach
    #innerwork
    #workonyourself
    #traumainformed
    #integrativehealth
    #emotionalwellbeing
    #focusonyou
    #healthyrelationships
    #conflictresolution
    #emotionalawareness
    #mentalhealthhelp⁠
    #connectedparenting⁠
    #sleepcoach⁠
    #babytalk⁠
    #healthyfamilies⁠
    #gentleparenting⁠
    #happybabies⁠
    #peacefulparenting⁠
    #fourthtrimester⁠
    #attachmnetparenting⁠
    #birthstories⁠
    #breastfeedingjourney⁠
    #realmoms⁠
    #postpartumsupport⁠
    #babysleep⁠
    #infantmassage⁠
    #positivebirth⁠
    #healthysleep⁠
    #dadstuff⁠
    #happycouples⁠

  •  6  2  7 hours ago
  • It’s probably not about us. Other people live in their own dream. Their own beliefs, their own imaginations, their own wants, their own perspectives. Their own experiences. When we take something personally we assume that person knows our inner world and that their priority should be our perspectives and expectations rather than theirs. We are subconsciously imposing our world onto theirs. We have no idea what they are going through. There may be negativity coming out which could be from past trauma, current stress or an unconscious pessimism about themselves or the world And we shouldn’t assume malicious intent without communicating and coming to an understanding. Remember they are in they’re own universe... it’s probably not about you
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#mindset #mindfulness #mindful #mindfulliving #emotionalintelligence #relationships #empathy #compassion #communication #cognitivebias #understanding #insight #observation #peace #harmony #conflictresolution #psychology
  • It’s probably not about us. Other people live in their own dream. Their own beliefs, their own imaginations, their own wants, their own perspectives. Their own experiences. When we take something personally we assume that person knows our inner world and that their priority should be our perspectives and expectations rather than theirs. We are subconsciously imposing our world onto theirs. We have no idea what they are going through. There may be negativity coming out which could be from past trauma, current stress or an unconscious pessimism about themselves or the world And we shouldn’t assume malicious intent without communicating and coming to an understanding. Remember they are in they’re own universe... it’s probably not about you
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    #mindset #mindfulness #mindful #mindfulliving #emotionalintelligence #relationships #empathy #compassion #communication #cognitivebias #understanding #insight #observation #peace #harmony #conflictresolution #psychology

  •  28  0  8 hours ago
  • I’m Kim Wilson, your Relationship Expert. Do you know what creates conflict inside of relationships? I’ll tell you...a M.E.S.S. It’s my acronym that stands for:
✅ Misunderstandings
✅ Emotional Reactions
✅ Stressful Thoughts
✅ Self-Judgement

Yep. That’s right…a mess! Misunderstandings can create a huge mess! It can lead to inner conflict, which can be exhausting. Emotional reactions can make an even bigger mess. Stressful thoughts can lead to anxiety. The self-judgement is downright brutal!

If we spill liquid on the floor, we use a mop to clean it up. If we want to wipe crumbs from the table, we use a cloth to clean. What tool will you use to clean up the mess left behind by workplace conflict?

There is a cost to unresolved conflict. Simply ignoring conflict is not the answer. When conflict is not addressed, the outcome is:⬇️

✅ Broken trust
✅ Low company morale
✅ High employee turnover
✅ Employees using more leave time
✅ Low productivity

I’m hosting an online workshop this Friday, August 7th at 12 PM.  In this powerful learning opportunity, you will learn the tools and skills to resolve conflict. 

Who should attend? All professionals, supervisors, managers, leaders, entrepreneurs. If you want to learn how to manage conflict, this workshop is for you!

Registering is easy! Click the link in bio to register. You can also use the link below:⬇️

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/conflict-how-to-clean-up-a-mess-tickets-114217625994

#relationships #relationshipdevelopment #positivity #kimwilson #kimwilsonspeaks #transformation #motivation #professionalwomen #entrepreneurs #mindsetChange #paradigmShift 
#confidence #leadership #selfhelp #intentionality #purpose #executivepresence #professionaldevelopment
#selfAwareness #gratitude #relationshipgoals #success #conflictresolution #conflicttransformation
  • I’m Kim Wilson, your Relationship Expert. Do you know what creates conflict inside of relationships? I’ll tell you...a M.E.S.S. It’s my acronym that stands for:
    ✅ Misunderstandings
    ✅ Emotional Reactions
    ✅ Stressful Thoughts
    ✅ Self-Judgement

    Yep. That’s right…a mess! Misunderstandings can create a huge mess! It can lead to inner conflict, which can be exhausting. Emotional reactions can make an even bigger mess. Stressful thoughts can lead to anxiety. The self-judgement is downright brutal!

    If we spill liquid on the floor, we use a mop to clean it up. If we want to wipe crumbs from the table, we use a cloth to clean. What tool will you use to clean up the mess left behind by workplace conflict?

    There is a cost to unresolved conflict. Simply ignoring conflict is not the answer. When conflict is not addressed, the outcome is:⬇️

    ✅ Broken trust
    ✅ Low company morale
    ✅ High employee turnover
    ✅ Employees using more leave time
    ✅ Low productivity

    I’m hosting an online workshop this Friday, August 7th at 12 PM.  In this powerful learning opportunity, you will learn the tools and skills to resolve conflict.

    Who should attend? All professionals, supervisors, managers, leaders, entrepreneurs. If you want to learn how to manage conflict, this workshop is for you!

    Registering is easy! Click the link in bio to register. You can also use the link below:⬇️

    https://www.eventbrite.com/e/conflict-how-to-clean-up-a-mess-tickets-114217625994

    #relationships #relationshipdevelopment #positivity #kimwilson #kimwilsonspeaks #transformation #motivation #professionalwomen #entrepreneurs #mindsetChange #paradigmShift
    #confidence #leadership #selfhelp #intentionality #purpose #executivepresence #professionaldevelopment
    #selfAwareness #gratitude #relationshipgoals #success #conflictresolution #conflicttransformation

  •  5  1  8 hours ago
  • Great teams know that conflict is inevitable, but combat is a choice.  They also confront conflict as a chance to learn, grow & gain strength as a team!

Listen to Positively Prepped: a Podcast for Teachers 

Episode 31- 5 Ways to Create a Great Team!

Wherever you listen to podcasts, link in bio!

 #PositivelyPrepped
#teach #iteach #teachers #teacher #teachersofig #teachersofinstagram #teacherlife #prepteacher #teacherprep #classroom #lessonplanning #classroomdiscipline #classroomprocedures #iamateacher #highschoolteacher #weareteachers #spanishteacher #spanishteachers #spanishteachersofinstagram #iteach #teachersofinsta #lifeofateacher #podcast #teacherproblems #teacherstuff #happyteacher #teamwork #conflictresolution
  • Great teams know that conflict is inevitable, but combat is a choice. They also confront conflict as a chance to learn, grow & gain strength as a team!

    Listen to Positively Prepped: a Podcast for Teachers

    Episode 31- 5 Ways to Create a Great Team!

    Wherever you listen to podcasts, link in bio!

    #PositivelyPrepped
    #teach #iteach #teachers #teacher #teachersofig #teachersofinstagram #teacherlife #prepteacher #teacherprep #classroom #lessonplanning #classroomdiscipline #classroomprocedures #iamateacher #highschoolteacher #weareteachers #spanishteacher #spanishteachers #spanishteachersofinstagram #iteach #teachersofinsta #lifeofateacher #podcast #teacherproblems #teacherstuff #happyteacher #teamwork #conflictresolution

  •  14  0  8 hours ago
  • Here’s one way to be set apart from the crowd in 2020...

Become un-offendable.
A refusal to be offended is an act of defiance against pride.
Being un-offendable doesn’t make you weak, it keeps you safe from being controlled by others. Taking up offense means becoming a slave to your own ego, instead of becoming a peacemaker.
HOWEVER. You don’t have to be a doormat to be un-offendable. You can still speak the truth in love, and let injustice anger you.
Hold your standards. Hold your ground. Hold onto your humility.
Just don’t hold offense- it doesn’t serve you or God. An offended heart makes things about you instead of our King. Offense is a heavy load. Travel light.
  • Here’s one way to be set apart from the crowd in 2020...

    Become un-offendable.
    A refusal to be offended is an act of defiance against pride.
    Being un-offendable doesn’t make you weak, it keeps you safe from being controlled by others. Taking up offense means becoming a slave to your own ego, instead of becoming a peacemaker.
    HOWEVER. You don’t have to be a doormat to be un-offendable. You can still speak the truth in love, and let injustice anger you.
    Hold your standards. Hold your ground. Hold onto your humility.
    Just don’t hold offense- it doesn’t serve you or God. An offended heart makes things about you instead of our King. Offense is a heavy load. Travel light.

  •  116  12  8 hours ago
  • I’m a talker and my partner’s a file drawer. Realizing this dramatically changed the way we communicate.

Earlier in our relationship, I noticed that when I’d talk about a problem I was having or try to discuss a decision we needed to make (eg. Buying a car together), my partner seemed  to get very stressed out. When it was MY problem, he seemed to not know what to say, and when it was OUR decision, his go-to answer was “I don’t know, I need to think about it.” This drove me C-R-A-Z-Y. I’d think “how the hell are we supposed to make this decision if we never talk about it??!”

When we were planning our wedding, this became particularly hard to ignore. We were trying to make decisions about the guest list and I described the predicament to my mother-in-law, looking to her for input. Her response was something like “Yeeaah that’s a tough one...” [side note: I love my MIL aka 2nd Mom - she is amazing]. When she answered, I could tell she was deep in thought, but I had NO idea what those thoughts were. Her response reminded me so much of how my partner would respond in situations like this: kind of vague, acknowledgment, with no concrete direction. 

On our way home, I commented to my partner about the similarity I’d noticed between him and his mom. “You guys are both pretty hard to read sometimes,” I joked. My partner grinned and added “Yeah, we’re pretty careful, we think a lot about stuff..” Suddenly it CLICKED. As a talker, I did most of my thinking and problem-solving out loud (and *falsely* assumed that everyone else did too). I relied on problem solving and decision making in CONVERSATION where I integrated input and feedback from the other person, as part of a process that ultimately led to my identification of a solution or choice. My partner was the complete opposite: as a file drawer, he took in information, and then needed to process it by himself, in the peace and quiet of his mind, before arriving at a final decision or outcome. 

(*Continued in the comments...)
  • I’m a talker and my partner’s a file drawer. Realizing this dramatically changed the way we communicate.

    Earlier in our relationship, I noticed that when I’d talk about a problem I was having or try to discuss a decision we needed to make (eg. Buying a car together), my partner seemed to get very stressed out. When it was MY problem, he seemed to not know what to say, and when it was OUR decision, his go-to answer was “I don’t know, I need to think about it.” This drove me C-R-A-Z-Y. I’d think “how the hell are we supposed to make this decision if we never talk about it??!”

    When we were planning our wedding, this became particularly hard to ignore. We were trying to make decisions about the guest list and I described the predicament to my mother-in-law, looking to her for input. Her response was something like “Yeeaah that’s a tough one...” [side note: I love my MIL aka 2nd Mom - she is amazing]. When she answered, I could tell she was deep in thought, but I had NO idea what those thoughts were. Her response reminded me so much of how my partner would respond in situations like this: kind of vague, acknowledgment, with no concrete direction.

    On our way home, I commented to my partner about the similarity I’d noticed between him and his mom. “You guys are both pretty hard to read sometimes,” I joked. My partner grinned and added “Yeah, we’re pretty careful, we think a lot about stuff..” Suddenly it CLICKED. As a talker, I did most of my thinking and problem-solving out loud (and *falsely* assumed that everyone else did too). I relied on problem solving and decision making in CONVERSATION where I integrated input and feedback from the other person, as part of a process that ultimately led to my identification of a solution or choice. My partner was the complete opposite: as a file drawer, he took in information, and then needed to process it by himself, in the peace and quiet of his mind, before arriving at a final decision or outcome.

    (*Continued in the comments...)

  •  3  2  12 hours ago

Top #conflictresolution Posts

  • 💭C O N F L I C T
[art/words: @themindgeek]
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📗A healthy relationship, friendship, familial or romantic, isn’t one free of conflict. It’s a relationship that feels safe enough and strong enough to have and withstand the difficult conversations.
📗When we have a tumultuous relationship with conflict, it can be natural for us to hope that with time and deep personal work we may overcome arguments once and for all.
📗A goal of this magnitude may prove more detrimental to our relationships than beneficial. What we often need, rather than an avoidance of conflict, is to find a better way to argue.
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🟡We’ll be looking into this topic more in future post but first, let’s learn from each other:
🟡Q U E S T I O N
Are you a conflict-avoider? Has your relationship with conflict changed over the years? Have you experienced the benefit of healthy conflict? Share your insights in the comments below, if it feels safe doing so✨
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#mentalhealthawareness #conflictresolution #relationshipquotes #healthyrelationships #personalgrowth
  • 💭C O N F L I C T
    [art/words: @themindgeek]
    ——
    📗A healthy relationship, friendship, familial or romantic, isn’t one free of conflict. It’s a relationship that feels safe enough and strong enough to have and withstand the difficult conversations.
    📗When we have a tumultuous relationship with conflict, it can be natural for us to hope that with time and deep personal work we may overcome arguments once and for all.
    📗A goal of this magnitude may prove more detrimental to our relationships than beneficial. What we often need, rather than an avoidance of conflict, is to find a better way to argue.
    ——
    🟡We’ll be looking into this topic more in future post but first, let’s learn from each other:
    🟡Q U E S T I O N
    Are you a conflict-avoider? Has your relationship with conflict changed over the years? Have you experienced the benefit of healthy conflict? Share your insights in the comments below, if it feels safe doing so✨
    ———
    #mentalhealthawareness #conflictresolution #relationshipquotes #healthyrelationships #personalgrowth

  •  30,877  250  17 May, 2020
  • ⁣⁣
When we invalidate children’s hard feelings by rushing them, discrediting them, minimizing their fears, or distracting them, we take away pain that belongs to them.⁣⁣
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Instead of creating a place where they can experience their most difficult emotions with people they trust (us!), we force them to fully feel those things for the first time when we aren’t there to support them.⁣⁣
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We teach them that their feelings can’t be trusted, and create in them an inner voice that will continue to discredit them (“it’s not that bad, I shouldn’t feel so sad.”) When we distract them with toys or candy, they will feel compelled to distract or numb themselves to avoid feeling as adults.⁣⁣
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The best way to help children move through and normalize these feelings is by acknowledging and fully accepting them. As positive parenting educator @krissyscouch explains:⁣⁣
☀️Validating your children teaches them to validate other people.⁣⁣
☀️ Sitting with your child and teaching them how to process big feelings helps them sit with others’ big feelings.⁣⁣
☀️ Believing your children teaches them to believe other people.⁣⁣
☀️ Connecting with your children allows them to connect with other people. ⁣⁣
☀️ Honoring your child’s humanity teaches them how to honor the humanity of others.⁣⁣
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Let children own their pain. By holding space for them to experience the full depths of human emotion, we give them the opportunity to learn that grief and pain are survivable.⁣
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Follow @curious.parenting for more on raising liberated, resilient kids 🌈
  • ⁣⁣
    When we invalidate children’s hard feelings by rushing them, discrediting them, minimizing their fears, or distracting them, we take away pain that belongs to them.⁣⁣
    ⁣⁣
    Instead of creating a place where they can experience their most difficult emotions with people they trust (us!), we force them to fully feel those things for the first time when we aren’t there to support them.⁣⁣
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    We teach them that their feelings can’t be trusted, and create in them an inner voice that will continue to discredit them (“it’s not that bad, I shouldn’t feel so sad.”) When we distract them with toys or candy, they will feel compelled to distract or numb themselves to avoid feeling as adults.⁣⁣
    ⁣⁣
    The best way to help children move through and normalize these feelings is by acknowledging and fully accepting them. As positive parenting educator @krissyscouch explains:⁣⁣
    ☀️Validating your children teaches them to validate other people.⁣⁣
    ☀️ Sitting with your child and teaching them how to process big feelings helps them sit with others’ big feelings.⁣⁣
    ☀️ Believing your children teaches them to believe other people.⁣⁣
    ☀️ Connecting with your children allows them to connect with other people. ⁣⁣
    ☀️ Honoring your child’s humanity teaches them how to honor the humanity of others.⁣⁣
    ⁣⁣
    Let children own their pain. By holding space for them to experience the full depths of human emotion, we give them the opportunity to learn that grief and pain are survivable.⁣

    Follow @curious.parenting for more on raising liberated, resilient kids 🌈

  •  9,640  290  12 June, 2020
  • It is a basic human right to have control over what happens to our own bodies. Often, adults who strongly agree with consent culture somehow miss the mark when it comes to young children.⁣
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We want to raise adults who:⁣
⭐ Feel comfortable communicating about what does and doesn’t work for them⁣
⭐ Have the tools to release anger without hurting others⁣
⭐ Know that consent is given, and can be taken back at any point	⁣
⭐ Listen right away when someone says “stop” or “don’t”⁣
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Let’s take advantage of the little, everyday opportunities to show children that everyone gets to decide what happens to their own bodies.⁣
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Letting a child wipe their own nose or have messy hair for a day are minor sacrifices when weighed against a child’s understanding of bodily autonomy and consent.⁣
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Follow @curious.parenting for more on raising liberated, compassionate kids 🌈
  • It is a basic human right to have control over what happens to our own bodies. Often, adults who strongly agree with consent culture somehow miss the mark when it comes to young children.⁣

    We want to raise adults who:⁣
    ⭐ Feel comfortable communicating about what does and doesn’t work for them⁣
    ⭐ Have the tools to release anger without hurting others⁣
    ⭐ Know that consent is given, and can be taken back at any point ⁣
    ⭐ Listen right away when someone says “stop” or “don’t”⁣

    Let’s take advantage of the little, everyday opportunities to show children that everyone gets to decide what happens to their own bodies.⁣

    Letting a child wipe their own nose or have messy hair for a day are minor sacrifices when weighed against a child’s understanding of bodily autonomy and consent.⁣

    Follow @curious.parenting for more on raising liberated, compassionate kids 🌈

  •  9,805  110  11 June, 2020
  • Conflict resolution is an important skill to have. What can make resolving conflict easier is our understanding of why conflict occurred in the first place (and this understanding can also help us prevent engaging in the same conflict over and over again). Conflict is not inherently bad or unhealthy but if not handled well, it can be detrimental to the relationship. •
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#loveyourself #selfawareness #awareness #lessons #feelings #mentalhealthtips #selfesteem #mentalhealth #psychology #heal #equality #strength #selfdiscovery #selfcare #selflove #human #identity #authenticity #worthit #intentionalliving #onlinetherapy #safe #millennialtherapist  #lovewins #mentalhealthmatters #relationships #conflictresolution
  • Conflict resolution is an important skill to have. What can make resolving conflict easier is our understanding of why conflict occurred in the first place (and this understanding can also help us prevent engaging in the same conflict over and over again). Conflict is not inherently bad or unhealthy but if not handled well, it can be detrimental to the relationship. •


    #loveyourself #selfawareness #awareness #lessons #feelings #mentalhealthtips #selfesteem #mentalhealth #psychology #heal #equality #strength #selfdiscovery #selfcare #selflove #human #identity #authenticity #worthit #intentionalliving #onlinetherapy #safe #millennialtherapist #lovewins #mentalhealthmatters #relationships #conflictresolution

  •  14,227  95  20 April, 2020
  • It is a basic human right to have control over what happens to our own bodies. Often, adults who strongly agree with this statement somehow miss the mark when it comes to young children.⁣⁣⁣
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We want to raise adults who:⁣⁣⁣
⭐ Feel comfortable communicating about what does and doesn’t work for them⁣⁣⁣
⭐ Know that consent is given, and can be taken back at any point ⁣⁣⁣
⭐  Understand that people get to be in charge of their own bodies⁣
⭐ Listen right away when someone says “stop” or “don’t”⁣⁣⁣
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You can't respect other people's boundaries if yours have not been respected. You can't set boundaries if you haven't seen them modeled.⁣
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Follow @curious.parenting for more on raising liberated, compassionate kids 🌈⁣
  • It is a basic human right to have control over what happens to our own bodies. Often, adults who strongly agree with this statement somehow miss the mark when it comes to young children.⁣⁣⁣
    ⁣⁣⁣
    We want to raise adults who:⁣⁣⁣
    ⭐ Feel comfortable communicating about what does and doesn’t work for them⁣⁣⁣
    ⭐ Know that consent is given, and can be taken back at any point ⁣⁣⁣
    ⭐ Understand that people get to be in charge of their own bodies⁣
    ⭐ Listen right away when someone says “stop” or “don’t”⁣⁣⁣
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    You can't respect other people's boundaries if yours have not been respected. You can't set boundaries if you haven't seen them modeled.⁣
    ⁣⁣⁣
    Follow @curious.parenting for more on raising liberated, compassionate kids 🌈⁣

  •  7,479  101  19 June, 2020
  • In the last couple of posts I talked about some tips to minimize our own defensive behavior and some of you pointed out that this does not work when the other person isn’t willing to listen or is just being downright disrespectful. This is a valid point and I wanted to share my thoughts. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Sometimes during a disagreement, even when we try to take a step back and gather our thoughts so we can approach the conflict in a more effective way, the other person is not willing to do the same - they still want to argue back. Unfortunately, there will be times where you will be misunderstood or disrespected. And there will be times people will project their past experiences on to you. This is painful and can leave us feeling helpless. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But although we cannot control how the other person is going to respond, we have to remind ourselves of our intentions and what we really want from that conversation. And if that is to resolve the conflict, then we *have to* listen to the other person instead of simply trying to prove ourselves right. We don’t have to agree with them but acknowledging their perspective can disarm them. This is not easy to do, but it creates a safe space for a conversation without judgement or attacks. It is very hard for someone to keep attacking back when we are being respectful and making them feel heard. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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What helps you de-escalate conflict, especially when you are feeling defensive or overwhelmed with emotion? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Note: I encourage you to use the information I share on here as a guide. Everyone’s experience is unique so some strategies/tools might not be relevant to your specific situation. Please see the disclaimer in my highlights.
  • In the last couple of posts I talked about some tips to minimize our own defensive behavior and some of you pointed out that this does not work when the other person isn’t willing to listen or is just being downright disrespectful. This is a valid point and I wanted to share my thoughts. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    Sometimes during a disagreement, even when we try to take a step back and gather our thoughts so we can approach the conflict in a more effective way, the other person is not willing to do the same - they still want to argue back. Unfortunately, there will be times where you will be misunderstood or disrespected. And there will be times people will project their past experiences on to you. This is painful and can leave us feeling helpless. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .

    But although we cannot control how the other person is going to respond, we have to remind ourselves of our intentions and what we really want from that conversation. And if that is to resolve the conflict, then we *have to* listen to the other person instead of simply trying to prove ourselves right. We don’t have to agree with them but acknowledging their perspective can disarm them. This is not easy to do, but it creates a safe space for a conversation without judgement or attacks. It is very hard for someone to keep attacking back when we are being respectful and making them feel heard. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    What helps you de-escalate conflict, especially when you are feeling defensive or overwhelmed with emotion? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    Note: I encourage you to use the information I share on here as a guide. Everyone’s experience is unique so some strategies/tools might not be relevant to your specific situation. Please see the disclaimer in my highlights.

  •  3,811  100  28 June, 2020
  • I once watched a two-year-old child go down the slide on a sunny afternoon at the park. Over and over again, he cheerfully reclimbed the ladder to slide again. ⁣
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Every time he did, someone would would praise him. “Good job, buddy!” they’d say. “Great sliding!” ⁣
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I couldn’t help but wonder: is it possible to do a bad job going down the slide? ⁣
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⭐ By praising everything a child does, we imply that something as fun as using the slide can be done “wrong.” ⁣
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⭐ Rather than allowing children to freely explore, we pull their focus toward pleasing us. ⁣
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⭐ We replace exploring and investigating what they find interesting with finding and performing the things that will make us happy. ⁣
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⭐ We ask them to ignore their own feelings and instead look to us for approval. ⁣
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“It’s not a matter of memorizing a new script, but of keeping in mind our long-term goals for our children,” says educator Alfie Kohn. “The bad news is that the use of positive reinforcement really isn’t so positive. The good news is that you don’t have to evaluate in order to encourage.” ⁣
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Follow @curious.parenting for more on raising liberated, resilient kids 🌈
  • I once watched a two-year-old child go down the slide on a sunny afternoon at the park. Over and over again, he cheerfully reclimbed the ladder to slide again. ⁣

    Every time he did, someone would would praise him. “Good job, buddy!” they’d say. “Great sliding!” ⁣

    I couldn’t help but wonder: is it possible to do a bad job going down the slide? ⁣

    ⭐ By praising everything a child does, we imply that something as fun as using the slide can be done “wrong.” ⁣

    ⭐ Rather than allowing children to freely explore, we pull their focus toward pleasing us. ⁣

    ⭐ We replace exploring and investigating what they find interesting with finding and performing the things that will make us happy. ⁣

    ⭐ We ask them to ignore their own feelings and instead look to us for approval. ⁣

    “It’s not a matter of memorizing a new script, but of keeping in mind our long-term goals for our children,” says educator Alfie Kohn. “The bad news is that the use of positive reinforcement really isn’t so positive. The good news is that you don’t have to evaluate in order to encourage.” ⁣

    Follow @curious.parenting for more on raising liberated, resilient kids 🌈

  •  6,192  129  22 June, 2020
  • Well this hit home like a ton of bricks 🧱 ART BY @thecrybabyclub_ I’ve always said, “How can you call yourself a Christian but hate other people? How can you go to Church but talk shit about others as soon as you leave? How can you enable abuse and rape and your excuse is that you’re a ‘forgiving person’? How can you alienate the person who’s pain you know but keep secrets in the name of family?” All I have Is how questions because I will never understand how deep racism, narcissism, enabling, flying monkeys, constant brainwashing, and the lives they are destroying to maintain the status quo. Posted @withregram • @empressyogachakra Oop!🤭
  • Well this hit home like a ton of bricks 🧱 ART BY @thecrybabyclub_ I’ve always said, “How can you call yourself a Christian but hate other people? How can you go to Church but talk shit about others as soon as you leave? How can you enable abuse and rape and your excuse is that you’re a ‘forgiving person’? How can you alienate the person who’s pain you know but keep secrets in the name of family?” All I have Is how questions because I will never understand how deep racism, narcissism, enabling, flying monkeys, constant brainwashing, and the lives they are destroying to maintain the status quo. Posted @withregram@empressyogachakra Oop!🤭

  •  11,515  222  24 June, 2020
  • Avoiding confrontation and conflict is easy, but not allowing yourself to properly express yourself and cause unwanted feelings is not healthy !! .
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This isn’t saying to go and fight everyone who challenges you, but rather know when your boundaries are being disrespected and when control of the situation has been lost. Recognize that you can control the situation !! .
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It is important that you say something when you are frustrated and angry. Expressing yourself is beneficial for many reasons, allowing someone to “walk all over you” is allowing someone to live your life for you. Use your voice, it’s loud, and express yourself appropriately, using conflict resolution skills. .
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#drnortontherapy #conflictresolution #traumaresponse #boundaries #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #youreworthit #ibelieveinyou
  • Avoiding confrontation and conflict is easy, but not allowing yourself to properly express yourself and cause unwanted feelings is not healthy !! .
    .
    .
    This isn’t saying to go and fight everyone who challenges you, but rather know when your boundaries are being disrespected and when control of the situation has been lost. Recognize that you can control the situation !! .
    .
    .
    It is important that you say something when you are frustrated and angry. Expressing yourself is beneficial for many reasons, allowing someone to “walk all over you” is allowing someone to live your life for you. Use your voice, it’s loud, and express yourself appropriately, using conflict resolution skills. .
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    #drnortontherapy #conflictresolution #traumaresponse #boundaries #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #youreworthit #ibelieveinyou

  •  499  4  2 May, 2020